Choosing to write your own wedding vows is an exciting way to honor your love during your wedding ceremony. What better way to illustrate your unique story?
While deciding to write nontraditional wedding vows is certainly a more personalized approach, it can be a challenge to execute. Couples often let the fear of not being a writer prevent them from actually writing their own vows.
Wondering if writing non-traditional wedding vows is right for you?
If you’re a bride or groom that craves unique experiences and want to design a wedding that reflects your personal style, then non-traditional vows are the way to go.
When you write non-traditional vows, you’re better able to capture what’s in your heart and what’s specific to your relationship.
After all, you two are one unique couple. Your wedding vows should speak to what makes you special as a couple.
No matter how long your engagement, it’s never too early to begin the vow writing process. Most couples procrastinate and leave writing personalized wedding vows until weeks, sometimes hours, before their wedding ceremony. This direction creates more stress and fear around writing your own vows. Instead, to feel more confident and in control, take this huge task and break it out into smaller, actionable chunks. This will help—the Wedding Words ultimate timeline guide for writing your own vows.
When it comes to your wedding, there’s so much to coordinate. The floral arrangements, color scheme, DJ playlist, seating chart, and the dress—my goodness, the dress! Amidst the wedding planning, the one item on every list of action items that tends to get pushed aside by couples is the vow writing. It’s not because couples don’t find writing unique wedding vows to be an essential and important part of their wedding ceremony. Rather, it’s because of the pressure, fear, and writer's block that plague their minds.
I love to focus on the positive so creating a “what not to do guide” for writing your wedding vows felt a little off-putting, at first. But this isn’t a pessimistic perspective to vow writing. This is a roadmap to rescue you from making unintentional accidents while at the altar.
Like Andie Anderson said about her dating column idea in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, “…it will be a sort of dating “How To” in reverse.”
So here’s my vow writing how to guide…in reverse. What not to do when it comes to writing and presenting your wedding vows.
Love my vows Katelyn!!!! It’s such a relief to have this out of the way so I can focus on all the rest of the stuff I need to do!
You were my very favorite part of the process!! Your experience and confidence in the process took all the stress out of writing my vows!
— Natalie, Florida
I thought the process was outstanding. You did a great job communicating, and I thought the turnaround time for editing was perfect. I also thought the video interview was great in that it was personal and meaningful!
— Jordan
I am a storyteller, not a speechwriter. I was incredibly intimidated about writing one.
So thankful to find Katelyn to get my thoughts all in order. Very proud of how the speech came out. Looking forward to giving it!
— Jennifer Whitley, Texas
I had such a wonderful experience working with Katelyn. She truly helped mold perfect vows that I can’t wait to tell my fiancé on our wedding day!
Katelyn was friendly, sweet, and super easy to work with. I will definitely be calling her up if I have to give another speech in the near future.
— Jordanne, California
Katelyn was professional, easy to talk to, and made the interviewing process fun. She came well prepared with unexpected and thought-provoking questions to get a better understanding of our love story and who we are as a couple.
She was a pleasure to work with and made the vow writing process enjoyable.
— Kimi Kinsey, South Carolina
Working with Katelyn on my maid of honor toast was an incredible experience. She really took the time to understand my relationship with my best friend and used my responses to craft a toast that put my thoughts and feelings into words in a way that I never would have been able to do on my own.
Before working with Katelyn, I was nervous and stressed about giving (and writing) such a big, important speech. But now I’m so relieved that it’s done, and I honestly can’t wait to stand up and tell everyone exactly what my best friend means to me.
— Allyssa, New Jersey
I didn’t actually know this service existed until I discovered Katelyn! It was such a fun experience to video chat with her about my best friend who is getting married this summer.
I don’t have to stress about writing this a few weeks before my best friend’s wedding. Thank you so much and I can’t wait to read it at my best friend’s wedding!
— Gabby
